With ongoing disruptions to the ways we’ve lived in the past, and the need for many of us to manage competing demands of work and family during the same daytime hours, how can we avoid a sense of overwhelm and maintain interest, much less happiness, at work?

In my wallet I have a tiny piece of worn paper—a tag I pulled off the string of a tea bag 10 years ago—with the words “Grace brings contentment.” I was struggling to survive a period of intense overwhelm when I first read it, and the phrase struck me like a lightning bolt. I interpreted “grace” as “acting gracefully,” such as with kindness, skill, and evenness of temperament. To me, the phrase meant that happiness results from particular inner attitudes and behaviors through the ups and downs of daily life.

Two years into the pandemic, most of us have let go of the myth that once the chaos of pandemic life has passed, things will go back to the way they were—that we need only hold on a little longer and life will get easier. After all, when the pandemic ceases to be a challenging factor in everyday life, the world will continue to be marked by constant change of all sorts.

Change is ubiquitous.

As an example, prior to the pandemic, each of our 2019s looked nothing like our 2018s. In only a year, so much changes.

Children grow and needs arise; we experience gains and losses; difficult situations resolve or fade away as other challenges reveal themselves; we meet friends and we get things done; good fortune waxes and wanes. Our workplaces and routines, the cars we drive, and the people we come home to—they do not remain constant throughout life.

Though sages of many eras have pointed it out, one doesn’t need to be a sage to see that happiness arises not due to ideal conditions, but from our willingness to ride the waves. Do we face forward, buoyant in the shifting currents, or do we turn and struggle against them?

Mindfulness meditation—sustained attention on whatever is here in successive present moments—is a way to practice noticing, and going with, the flow. Bringing  the quality of mindfulness to activities of life means we show up interested, with no expectations that things will go a certain way. It is a “let’s see” attitude, which can refresh our relationship to activities that may have seemed uninteresting or unmanageable.

To apply mindfulness in any situation is to switch off autopilot. When mindfulness is present, we do not thoughtlessly "go through the motions."

Like curiosity, mindfulness is an agent of creative engagement that can dampen a tendency to react impulsively to the unexpected. In this way, mindfulness supports us in regulating our responses to the twists and turns of the day as it unfolds.

Especially since the demands and distractions of modern life tend to encourage mindlessness, we must purposefully create the conditions for this quality of mind to flourish. In other words, though mindfulness is an innate psychological faculty, we must deliberately call it forth.

Treating the beginning of our work day as the fertile ground in which to plant the seeds of mindfulness can support contentment, happiness, and ease throughout the day.

Try the following three-part framework for beginning a workday mindfully—you can think of it as taking a SIP of mindfulness, first thing.

1. SPACE
   Environment matters. Even if you are working at your dining room table rather than a dedicated desk, you can set up the space around you to support a sense of purpose, rather than detract from it (or worse, lend an air of apathy or carelessness to the space).
   
   Keep things tidy, and bring in items that hold meaning for you, on which you might rest your gaze as you pause for a mindful midday moment.
   
   Under my monitor sits a small ceramic tray made by a friend, holding a wooden Buddha and a tiny singing bowl. (I realize this reads as a response to “tell me you’re a meditation teacher without telling me you’re a meditation teacher.”) You might have a photo of a loved one or a piece of jewelry you love but is not practical to wear. Try not to let your space become cluttered with too many items of meaning as the result will be to dilute the power of any of them to engender good feelings.
   
   When you first arrive at your space for the day, spend a few moments organizing before you begin. Put stray papers and pens away, remove any mugs from the day before, and straighten the items on your work surface.
   
   Respect for your workspace is one way to show respect for your work and honor the energy and time you spend on it, and the talent you bring to it.
   
   
2. INTENTION
   Once you have tidied your workspace, bring to mind how you want the day to go. In other words, set an intention.
   
   You might consider the qualities you would like to bring to your work, or to your interactions with your co-workers. Alternatively, you may ask yourself, “How do I want to feel as I work,” or “How do I want to feel at the end of the workday?” Another way to determine an intention is to consider what you would like to—and can realistically—complete.
   
   Try to be specific and name your intention not as a wish but as an action you will take.
   
   Rather than “I want to feel better after meetings than I usually do,” you might name your intention as “maintain well-being through meeting.” Hopefully this will spur you to show up to the meeting under agreement with yourself that you will consciously breathe or go off camera or take some other action in support of your well-being if needed.
   
   If you want to repair a relationship with a coworker, you might name “proceed with care,” or “reconnect.” And if you want to avoid a familiar sense of feeling unheard or misunderstood by someone you might name “speak the truth” or “show up, be clear, and let go of the outcome.”
   
   On the other hand, an abstract intention can set a mood or tone for the day. Some mornings I write on my large square scratch pad something like “tend” or “it matters” when a project has been languishing and I know that using my time wisely will allow me to complete it.  
   
   Whether the answer to our inquiry is a feeling or behavior or concrete outcome, making it an intention gives us direction and makes us more likely to make decisions and take actions that support its arising.
   
   
3. PRACTICE
   Whether or not you already meditated or practiced yoga as part of your morning routine, now that you are in your work environment, pause.
   
   You might take three mindful breaths, or set a timer for three minutes and notice how the body feels resting on the chair below, or warm your back and ease tightness in the shoulders with mindful movement. Simply sipping tea as you set an intention is a practice!
   
   Come up with something that is enjoyable and enlivening to you.

What is important is ritualizing the cultivation of mindfulness and its sister qualities—such as calmness, clarity, and patience—so you can bring them into the rest of your day, infusing it with goodness.

To this three-part framework I would add a midday mindful pause, an end-of-the-workday gratitude practice naming the people and things that supported you in showing up as well as you did, and a period of quiet for winding down before engaging in other parts of life (especially if in the before times you had a commute that served as buffer between work and arriving home). These are topics for another day. For now, keep it simple, and start at the beginning.

Create the conditions for a good day by approaching it mindfully from the start.

If you find it easier to practice with others than on your own, check out the Mindfulness & Compassion Practice Group, which for those of you in the Eastern U.S., is first thing on Wednesday mornings. 

To expand the application of mindfulness in your professional life—to meetings, projects, and relationships with coworkers—I recommend meditation teacher Sharon Salzberg’s wonderful book Real Happiness at Work.

For 1:1 sessions in applying mindfulness to work or any part of life, contact me! Together we can uncover habits of body and mind that may be challenging you and come up with better routines. 

However you do it, skillfully starting your day—perhaps by tidying your space, setting an intention, and practicing mindfulness--is the sort of grace that brings contentment.

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This post was simultaneously published by studio BE, a wellness tech company.

The following are some thoughts I recently shared with a journalist who asked about the benefits of yoga.

1. What are the benefits of yoga for mental health?

Yoga gives us agency in our well-being through tools that promote our physical health, energetic balance, emotional regulation, and mental focus.

Yoga is, in fact, quite a vast and varied system for living that can address a broad bandwidth of human experience, conditions, and circumstances. But it is crucial to know which of the multitudes of yogic practices is appropriate for a given situation.

If we work with a teacher who chooses and guides us through practices that for us serve as appropriate doorways into relationship with our body and mind, it is possible to feel whole despite ailments or illnesses. “Wholeness,” after all, is a state of well-being that is based not on external measures of health, but on how we relate to ourselves as we are.

The bonus is that in addition, not only can we feel whole as we are, but studies show we can experience measurable physiological improvements in focus, sleep, blood pressure, and more.

2. What are the best ways to practice?

There is no one best way to practice, and if you wish to address a particular condition or set of symptoms, it is important to work directly with a teacher. It will not do to only watch videos of choreographed routines that may or may not address your state and needs.

Think about how someone experiencing depression can have spells of low energy, lack of interest and motivation, and sleep more than usual. On the other hand, someone with an anxiety disorder might suffer from restlessness that prevents focus and productivity due to the frequent triggering or chronic state of over-alertness from which their nervous system cannot come down.

These states are in some ways opposite, and do not call for the same interventions.

A person with depression might benefit from various styles of practice on different days, but generally they should not always practice a style that is down-regulating to the nervous system, as it will only reinforce their low energy. A person with an anxiety disorder should not practice active and enlivening styles of yoga to stimulate their body-heart-mind system, as they are already suffering from over-stimulation and excitation.

Knowing this, we can purposefully choose a practice that will antidote rather than exacerbate our condition. Still, without consulting a teacher, we are likely to miss out on the more subtle and potent methods (and their adaptations), which are rarely taught in group or pre-recorded sessions, and that will best address our conditions.

Put simply, yoga should be tailored to your physical, emotional, and mental state. A knowledgeable teacher will be able to craft a yoga practice that is responsive to your conditions and circumstances, encouraging balance, wholeness, and health for you.

3. Any specific tips?

When practicing yoga for mental health, we might do well to go beyond the overly emphasized physical aspects of yoga practice, and spend more time with the inner methods — working with energy, breath, and mind — in order to promote self-awareness and a sense of wholeness.

Even if a sense of wholeness is elusive when we are in our most disrupted states, we can expand self-awareness, giving us a better sense of just what is happening.

For example, we can notice how our energy is stagnant or our breath is uneven, and then learn a pranayama (breathwork) exercise to restore evenness and flow to the inner system. Or, we can notice a tendency toward overly critical thinking and bring the theme of our inner critic to a trained mental health professional, mentor, or teacher, who can support us in understanding and processing disruptive core beliefs.  

A key benefit of the inner method of mindfulness is that it capacitates us to tolerate discomfort in our bodies or minds. It helps us relax away from the impulse to immediately escape from an uncomfortable experience, so that we can proceed with more awareness, slowly and deliberately.

After all, responding to anything with skill first requires we avoid a knee-jerk reaction, and mindfulness meditation is a great way to train this up.

As spring descends in the northern hemisphere, nature awakens. What was dormant or resting now bursts forth — trees bud, flowers blossom, and once hibernating animals emerge, often with new offspring.

The energy that supports this rebirth is made possible by the deep, replenishing rest of winter — a period of incubation. Now, at a newly vigorous pace, organisms fully engage in the inextricable web of life to which we all belong.

However, for those of us who do not feel well-rested, the activity of spring can feel unwelcome and off-putting. Sometimes the increased daylight can feel like a harsh glare, keeping us indoors. We might hide from nature’s invitation, isolating ourselves and turning further inward, contracting around our burdens and daily frustrations.

Where so much outside seems fresh, inside we can feel stuck.

With the continued shifting of the state of the pandemic, this spring in particular has the potential to engender in some people feelings of anxiety about the safety of emerging, and what’s to come.

Wonderfully, ancient Buddhists recorded teachings in writing that are highly relevant to modern life, including how to antidote feeling cut-off from the rest of the world. In fact, among the thousands of discourses the Buddha delivered to students of various sorts (monks, lay people, kings, and outlaws) there are instructions for mindfully relating to the elements of the natural world.

Practicing with these can be extremely useful for those of us feeling out-of-step with nature.
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By mindfully contemplating the elements (namely the early Buddhist writers were concerned with Earth, Water, Fire, and Wind) we can start to view ourselves as not separate from nature, but very much of it. Such a meditation invites knowing the properties of the natural elements within our own bodies, as well as outside, in the landscape.

For example: a body scan in which we note the properties of hardness/softness, roughness/smoothness is a recognition of the expression of the Earth element within. We can become aware of the Water element by noticing moisture in the mouth and the cohesive property of the flesh. Fire, or the heat element, is felt through temperature on skin. And we notice Wind in motion, circulation and, of course, breath.

Simplifying our experience for several moments in this way, followed by noting properties of the elements in the landscape outside, or a favorite landscape from your life, makes it clear:

We are not separate from the world around us, but inextricably connected to it.

There is ease in the direct experience of the truth that we are just nature. Further, during the embodied mindfulness practice of an Elements meditation, what all feels so personal — our preferences, concerns, and worries  — fall away.

If you're feeling discomfort with transitioning into the conspicuously busy season of spring, try this audio meditation. Here I guide an "elements" mindfulness meditation based on the ancient Satipaṭṭhāna Sutta, and inspired by the teaching of the contemporary Theravada Buddhist monk and scholar Bhikkhu Anālayo. 

Early last spring, how many of us thought that certainly by fall at the latest, life and work would return to normal?

Most of us.

However, with autumn around the corner, everything remains quite different, and it continues to change.

Life now requires near constant adaptation to shifting and uncertain circumstances. Families who are sending their children back to school and college are preparing for the possibility of their students’ return home, should circumstances require. Similarly, people who worked in an office in the “before times” continue to work from home, with return dates pushed farther out, and some companies discussing the possibility of a permanent work-from-home model.

While working from home is a dream come true for some folks — no commute, no draining social interactions, and you can get the laundry done by dinner time — for others, it is a real struggle. The social ties we develop with our colleagues contribute to a sense of belonging, which is crucial to our well-being. So especially for people who enjoyed a large part of life’s social interactions at the workplace, the shift to working from home can impact a sense of connectedness and contribute to a sense of isolation.

Isolation and its relative loneliness are implicated in several things we want to avoid: burnout, depression, and earlier death. How can we recognize the signs that we may be struggling with working from home?
 
Reduced ability to focus is the canary in the coal mine for many problems. Coupled with waning interest and productivity — or worse...disillusionment, exhaustion, and frustration — you have a clear indication there is a significant disruption or imbalance in your body-heart-mind system.

1. Monitor yourself.

As a mindfulness teacher, I help my clients learn to regularly connect with the physical, emotional, and mental aspects of their being so they are aware of how they are doing before it's too late. Sustained mindfulness practice builds self-awareness and can reveal changes and trends that need course correction. 

In this way, mindfulness practice is a monitoring tool for our well-being. Without it, we might not catch or understand the signals our own bodies, hearts, and minds are sending us.

While mindfulness is an inherent psychological faculty we all possess, I recommend learning mindfulness meditation from a trained teacher who can provide the methods and support necessary for establishing and maintaining a regular practice. Only 10 minutes a day can make a big difference in how readily we can attune to ourselves and the life around us.

While getting started with a practice can feel like a hurdle, once you’re over it, the only thing you need to do is continue. That’s it. And the motivation to do so will arise naturally as you notice improvements in focus, relationships, and your ability to manage stress.

But what if, using mindfulness, you notice that against the backdrop of these troubled times you feel increasingly out of sorts, unable to focus, frustrated in your relationships?

2. Seek outside help.

This may be from a doctor, therapist, or coach. We can’t always feel well on our own, and a trained professional will be able to support your journey toward wellness with evidence-based and time-tested methods.

If you have a meditation practice, check in with a teacher as well. It may make sense to adjust something about your practice, perhaps even the method you are using. When difficulties in our bodies, hearts, or minds plague us, mindfulness might be contraindicated, and a different type of meditation could be useful.

3. Practice lovingkindness meditation.

This sister practice to mindfulness meditation in which we stimulate a sense of goodwill, is a great way of antidoting a sense of disconnection.

While the formal practice involves repeatedly inwardly reciting phrases to help cultivate a sense of friendliness and ease toward yourself and others, you can use this practice informally, at any time. Simply pause in your day and silently wish yourself and your co-workers — those you like and those you have a difficult time with — safety, health, happiness, and peace.

Say “May we be safe, healthy, happy, and peaceful.”

Say it again.

Then a third time.

Done.

​May it be so!

What a year.

The novel and unpredictable circumstances created by the pandemic and the uncertain outcome of righteous unrest calling for racial justice — both exacerbated by leadership's uneven and inadequate responses — have provoked deep anxiety in individuals and communities.

They also offer enormous potential.

Here are four tips for coping with anxiety and lowering stress in times of crisis so you can effectively engage in fights for our lives.

1. Pause often. When we are stressed by unsafe conditions or dramatically shifting circumstances, we can be triggered to fight, flee, or freeze. In other words, we become more likely to strike out at others, try to escape our situation entirely, or feel so stuck that we cannot respond appropriately or move forward in any way. Our pre-frontal cortex, the part of the brain that governs reason, self-regulation, and compassion, goes offline to some degree. Bringing it back online depends on recognizing our heightened state.
   
   If in moments of intensity — anger, flight, or rumination — if we can pause the momentum, we can step back from the edge and feel what is happening internally in body and mind. It is helpful to feel or name the bare facts of this experience, such as a quickened breath or tensed shoulders. This simple recognition begins the shift back toward a settled state. It's amazing, and it's backed by science!
   
   
2. Stay in the body. When pausing, you also might slowly take three conscious breaths, or soften your gaze or close your eyes and feel your feet on the ground. Whatever method you choose to soothe, keep it body based. While keeping our attention in the body might not always feel great, especially when we feel triggered and anxious, if it's tolerable to stay with it, we may ultimately become more grounded. When we are more grounded, our capacity for all sorts of things — such as tolerating difficulty, cooperating with others, and creating joy — increases.
   
   
3. Be vulnerable. In forcing ourselves to buck up and feel a certain way, or worse, stop feeling a certain way, we only add fuel to a fire. Instead of trying to shore up any difficult emotions or feign positivity, we might make a practice of turning toward our tender feelings and inquiring, "How are things?" After noting what's true, we can add the phrase, "Can I be with this?" At whatever pace feels right, circle back: "How are things now?"
   
   These inquiries promote recognition of our inner state as well as acceptance and self-compassion, resulting in a sense of wholeness, wellness, strength.
   
   
4. Connect to what matters. The background noise to our lives in this moment — the incessant, anxiety-provoking news and analysis — will deplete us if we are not careful. Rather than ignore it entirely and stick our heads in the sand — or vacillate between spells of over-consumption on the one hand and disconnection on the other — each of us needs a strategy for balance. Living a rich, engaged life of meaning requires that we know what is going on in the world around us, but we also need to avoid information overwhelm, or we will be no good to anyone.
   
   Consciously disconnect from social media and news for spells (some hours every day, if not a full day on weekends) and make time to connect to what matters most to you. Is that your children, your community, your side gig? Close your eyes right now and imagine how it feels to be in the presence of the person you love most, or to act righteously with your community members, or to complete a creative project. The power of your passion to undo the stress that builds up in body and mind cannot be overestimated.
   
   

By pausing often, staying in the body, allowing vulnerability, and connecting to what matters, we more fully wake up and show up to life.

Now is always the time to capacitate ourselves to meet what is present.